When I say the word commitment, what’s the first thing that strikes your mind? Is it affection, relationship, a promise or may be even marriage. Very rarely do people give it a broad thought. Not just relationships, but commitment can be applicable for many other instances and at many different levels.
Different people have different definitions for this term. For some it’s dedication, it’s desire, some say it’s prioritization, for some it’s respect and for some it’s truth or trust. According to me, these are all just ways to follow or keep a commitment. Commitment is giving your word for something, it’s a bond, a promise. You can be committed to many different things, to many different people at many different levels at the same time. You could even be committed to yourself at many different levels, for that matter. Yes, of course you can commit to yourself, however bizarre that might sound.
It is definitely not a piece of cake. You are tested by fate at every level with patience, situations, truthfulness and sincerity. Sincerely fulfilling a commitment is indeed a testing fact of life. Not at all an easy choice but definitely a significant one. But do commitments change? I asked a few people around and trust me people do take commitments very seriously. At least in their words they do, you never know if they actually try to fulfill them or just give excuses for not being able to do that. Changing of commitments is not like changing of priorities. You commit to something, you fulfill it, or at least I feel so. Our priorities keep changing depending upon our commitments. Your work commitments, your personal commitments as well as your self commitments are different and have different level of importance given by you, yourself. But are you sure you have it all sorted? My point with all this is to know if you really do understand the difference and if you have achieved a balance with your commitments accordingly.
Like I said, every commitment for every other person holds a different level of significance. For some, their work commitments could be important and for some their personal commitments. The third option is often neglected by many. It depends how seriously we take them. If you have a commitment towards your work, it means you have to show results. But it also depends what all are you ready to do in order to achieve them. You may simply continue working and not make much of a difference, or take added steps to make your results different, prominent. The same goes with your personal commitments. You live your life, you feed your kids, you keep your husband and in-laws and even your parents happy. But do you really take an initiative to make that life a little more interesting or happier? Routine is not interesting. Your self commitments play a very important role with respect to all your commitments. If you cannot keep the promises you make to yourself, well, then you have a lot to catch up before you take big vows. Just doing your duty is not fulfilling your commitments. This term is a huge part of your life and it needs to be treated accordingly, given its due respect.
Now, over to a tougher question, when would you say you have broken a commitment?
You promise your 3 year old a chocolate once you return, but while pulling your car out of the parking lot, when the thought crossed your mind, even if you could go to the store on the way, you ignored it.
You have a plan with your fiancee, but your boss calls in for a last moment meeting, and rather than leaving a message or calling her to tell her that the plan has been postponed, you simply walk into that room and instead of wrapping up quick, you stay further.
You have a client waiting for you but you have had a long tiring day. You call the meeting off just because you can’t take it anymore, ignoring the fact that the client has also adjusted the time for your meet and also has been through a lot.
That’s breaking a commitment. If you can’t take a hint there, I don’t know how else to explain this better.
Time, I always feel is your own personal property. You are the sole owner and you are the only one who decides what to do with it. You take it on a toll you take it for a ride, other elements are always going to be there to watch the show and give in their inputs. Sometimes you can’t really help it, and obviously your people understand. But you need to understand that your words are the only thing that can make a difference. Also, the way you put them through. All this is for the next time, anyway.
Commitments are not easily made nor easily broken. I should be rather using the word “shouldn’t”. They are different from promises and it’s high time people understand that. When you sign that bond you are tagged with the company, when you sign those marriage papers, you are committed for the lifetime. We can always wiggle our way out. But staying is what matters. Choose for yourself, your choice is going to make a difference for you.
Cheers to you, cheers to lyf…!