Smiling For The Next…

Another year ends. It was happy, it was sad. It was good, it was bad. We chose few things, few were out of others’ choice. But no matter what, or how, it has passed and that is one reality we need to face. We cannot opt to relive those times or days anymore. We do not get a second chance to correct our mistakes.

This year also took many lives which taught us to love our loved ones more than we do, give them as much time as you can because you really don’t know what might happen the next day. Our choices, our options, the happiness and our sorrows everything is going to be carried ahead to the next year. Learning from our previous deeds and steps, it’s time for us to sort our lives further. Every year brings new challenges and phases for us. But they are threads and branches of one stem that is our soul life. But with everything, one thing we need to remember is to Live.

Be charming, spread love, and learn to ignore wrongs and believe in giving second chances. Life is so much better if lived happily.

Wish you all a happy and satisfying New Year!

Cheers to you, cheers to lyf…!

Thanks Giving…

We inculcate so many things from the western culture. Their dressing, rituals, weddings, styles, accents and what not. Many Indians blame the western culture for the misbehaving next generation. The reason is the huge gap between both the cultures. There are good and bad things in both the culture if you really consider the facts. How about inculcating the good parts of the West? Every year the fourth Thursday of November is considered as Thanks Giving. Thanks Giving is a part of their culture unlike us by the way. For us thanking someone is a big deal in itself whereas they have this festival mind you, the ones who crib about them being ridiculous. Anyway, that’s not the path we are here to follow today.

When someone does something for us we thank them. Especially if it’s a stranger, we are all into showing our good manners and etiquettes. But what about the people who actually do all they can for us and do not expect a single thing in return? Do we ever consider thanking them for all that they have been doing for us all along? Knowingly and unknowingly people do something or the other for us all our as well as their lives. These people can be our close buddies, our relatives, our siblings and even our parents. Believe it or not but every person you meet in your life helps you with something and lets you grow. Be it your neighbor, some person you have hated all your life or even a few of your good or bad wishers. In some or the other manner all these people have been there always. Let’s take our parents for example. We simple cannot enlist all the things they have done for us. Not only that they have given us birth but they have given us everything we want at all the required times of life. They have always shown tremendous love and support throughout. Even in poverty they have assured us security and provided us with everything that we required. Obviously we cannot thank them enough for all they have done for us. But we can try that by our deeds. Similarly there are many such people who have been through our thick and thin. Someone who listened to us when we wanted to cry our heart out and never shared that moment with anyone else even though they hated listening to us crib. Someone who has taken all our tantrums and not uttered a word, someone who has been through your craziness and yet stood by you calling you a friend.

All these people need to be thanked for whatever they have done. No matter what they feel about you now or no matter what you feel about them you need to thank them not for them but for you to feel good and free. Thanking someone or giving them their earned credit makes them happy and eventually you are happy as well. I have always voiced it through my previous posts as well that everyone who has earned some kind of credit in your life needs to be awarded with the same. Let’s just try and celebrate this Thanks Giving whenever possible. There is no particular time or day when you need to thank people. You just do it. Keep your ego aside and feel all the good things about everyone, even the person whom you might dislike or even hate. This also helps in another way that is, when you think about all the good things about the person you dislike, may it be even one good thing, there is a possibility that your perception about that person might change. You might not hate that person or dislike the person to the extent you did previously. Now, it might crop up in your mind that what if the person you dislike dislikes you too and laughs out at you when you thank him or her for something and you end up annoyed? Just remember one thing, you are doing it for yourself and not for anyone else. Who cares about what he/she thinks? You are following your deeds and you will bear the fruit for the same. There is no point thinking otherwise. Trust me this really makes you feel content and aloof of any feeling of pressure or obligation. Try it once maybe you will find yourself at peace.

Cheers to you, cheers to lyf…!

The truth about being Sad…

You take those things for granted that are not yours. The things you don’t are always yours. You can never be sure about anything in life. The only thing you can or rather are sure of is nothing. We aggravate many things in life; sorrows, pains, denials, rejections and what not. But have you ever wondered why is it always that you have to exasperate sadness? Why not choose a better option instead? Why not ‘Live’ instead? Come on, life isn’t that bad. You have good times too. Just that you don’t ponder upon them as you do with the bad ones. Things have positive and negative both. Every other day is new. Like the old sayings and phrases go, after every night comes day, every coin has 2 sides, there is always good after bad, blah blah blah…

You think you don’t know all this? Oh yes you do! But the problem somehow is in acceptance. May be there is another story for this then. May be you just like being sad. Yes now you’ll argue by saying “You are insane, who likes to be sad?” and all. But trust me there can be something going on deep down inside you, which makes you linger on the negative more than the positive bit. When you are sad you feel left out and probably that’s the reason you wish to have people around you. You keep distancing yourself but might want them to stay on longer just so that you know who actually cares. This happens more with females, though I don’t deny guys behaving so too. No, that isn’t gay! Guys have feelings too and I find no reason for them to behave any different from what they feel. This is where it comes. Acceptance! If you feel sad, be it! There is no need to run away from the feeling. Cry as much as you wish to. Analyze things, sort them out with yourself first, wipe your tears and you are good to go. Sort your problems out with the concerned person, I repeat, concerned person only! If things work out well and good, if not, move on. Scrap everything off and make a new start. By a new start I literally mean a new start. There is no point thinking on those lines again and again. Things go as they come. Just let it go.

Once you get over that situation make sure you do not look back. You might wish to cry thinking about everything again. But then think of those few people to whom you matter and who are affected when they see tears in your eyes or see you upset. They make you strong. Hold their hand and get up again. Life always gives you a second chance. It is always between you and life. No one else has a say in between. The sooner you realize this the better it is. You choose your path, you make your destiny. Being upset or woeful never helps. You need to rise and shine like the morning sun. Yes you have to, because, there is no point. Time will not pause or cease its pace for you, nor will people stop living their own lives. Come on you can’t blame them. They have their own destinations to reach. So simple; you concentrate on yours and attain that. Think about all the things that happened in your life till now.

Think about everything you have been through till date. Has anything changed? Yes. Everything has. Except the fact that you are living and you will die when your part is played. In all the phases of life there came so many things, so many people. None or some of them have stuck to you even now. Everything has an end and so does life. Why waste it cribbing than living every moment of it blissfully? Time is ticking. Step with it and sync in before you lose the beat and trip over the track. Choice is yours if you wish to get up and walk and dance or stay there face down feeling miserable till your time comes. Wonderful things have wonderful times. Grab them. Don’t lose them. There is more to it than it seems.

Cheers to you, cheers to lyf…!

Taking a step, making a start…

Life has just become a joke for everyone nowadays. We have become selfish, self-centered and totally unbothered about our surroundings and the happenings. There is literally nothing which boils up our blood. Even if it does, we happen to do nothing about it, keep mum and when the time passes we are all mouth to blame others. At the very moment when it is actually needed for us to take some actions what we do is, hide behind bushes and try to protect our own bottoms and play safe. May the thing happening be the gravest and sickest of all we don’t care. All we care is about ourselves.

When we see something wrong happening we tend not to interfere, but when something wrong happens with one of our family members or close ones why do we expect others to be thoughtful and take actions? Instead of helping that individual what we do is photo shoot the whole scene and make it public and justify it by saying we did it for public interest. Our police reach every scene after everything is over and the culprits have run away. And the best part is, we make fun of it. This is our system! Considering India is a democratic country every individual should get justice. We say women have got their rights and freedom in India. But have they really? Here women are being raped, molested and taken an advantage of every now and then. Some come in notice others are dumped and no actions are taken. The so-called high class people, who think they have got power in hand, misuse it and get away with it as well. Not like they don’t go through things themselves but that either turns out to be a publicity stunt or they just get away with things because of their so called power. The sufferers belong to the lower groups as they don’t have cash to spend like water. There are women who don’t get justice for years and years and all the system does is blame them for the deeds they don’t do.

With every new day, there are different types of crimes and offenses that come in notice. Molestation, rape, murders all these things have become so common that a normal method of crime is not satisfactory for us anymore. People have started using different techniques and strategies of committing crime. With all this we are among the toppers in corruption. Shove money and matters are sorted. No complaints lodged, no crime committed and hence no justice required. A female gets molested in public by a mob of 20 people in a public place and what others in the crowd do is stand and just capture images and videos of the scene going around than go and help the female out of the horrendous situation. Many of the crimes and situations happening are not even paid justice to. They are left in a limbo to swing in.

Life lines are something that hardly matter to people nowadays. With growing literacy, wisdom and knowledge it is observed that we humans have become self-centered and lonely. Whom do we blame for this, others? This is something we have dug in for ourselves and also by our own efforts. Our egos and attitudes have become more important to us than our morals and values. We talk about culture, etiquettes, manners and ethics. There is hardly anyone of us who actually tries to practice what he preaches. Life has become a serious joke and this is something which is inevitable if there is no humanity followed. If you expect good, you need to do some good too. Things don’t usually work singlehandedly you see. If you want things to work you need to grind yourself a little too. They won’t work automatically. You should not even expect that for your behavior if it’s on the similar lines. As you sow, so shall you reap is an old saying which is to be remembered and obeyed along too.

For a better place to stay you need to be equally good to deserve the good. Then and only then can you expect others to be good to you and value you. A little attention, a little help, a little anything for someone, anyone can make someone’s day or even give them enough confidence to fight for their own lives. You never know what your few words or actions might mean to a needy person. The only way to know is by helping and giving your time. Try it, maybe you can make wonders happen.

Cheers to you, cheers to lyf…!

Bruised But Not Broken, SHE Fights…

In the chaos and hustle of the fast moving life, she strives through many ups and downs. Very distinct and out-of-the-box kinds externally, but she is indeed the same old one from the inside. Deviating from the basic instincts, she made a walkthrough to the inevitable transformation. Abandoning and getting abandoned she kept struggling with all her might to enforce a strong and firm rooting in the ground where she stood still without budging even in the storms. Sporting a smile even when she was suffering and caring for others even when she needed to be nursed herself, being stronger than a man and innocent like kids at the same time, this is the Woman in the City.

She was known as just the one who is able to nurture the house and the family. With no identity for herself more than a man’s maid she was treated just as an option. That’s when she decided to substantiate herself against all odds. She decided to get out and go get a name for herself. In a chirpy and determined mood she did get out but then it was reality which hit her on the face. There was a dearth of strength she realized. As she went out when she was searching for light, it was darkness which welcomed her, which scared her, made her fall, bruised her and made her go astray. She was confused and hurt. There was no one to back her because she had chosen a new and different path altogether. She came back again with more determination and the prior days’ experience. She was able to put a step forward and see a little through the dark. She felt a little more potent and confident. She knew she would do it. With more trial and error she sought her path and gripped it, as tightly as she could because she knew she might become weak and she couldn’t afford it.

She was blamed and waived. Neither her family nor the world could stand her achievement. She was never praised. This weakened her and at the same time gave her strength to prove her and establish herself. She did start doing it. Conquering one thing after another, overpowering one man after another she reached her destiny. With this came the praise and the confidence that people didn’t portray before with their prejudiced minds. “Success brings you everything” is nothing but true. The way in which she grew brought numerous changes which were expected, accepted and unaccepted too. After the mission of getting an identity for herself, there came another twist which had comparison involved. This was more complicated and equally indigestible. But she had to go through this too. Proving her man that she was better in all terms and fields, proving every man about her prowess had become her main motto. She struggled and fought for her rights and prerogatives. The man wasn’t multitasking but she was expected to be. Expectations were what she was named to fulfill. She conquered this too. Standing on equal stairs with the man she now was not compared. But still wasn’t the man for the society.

Every place every quarter she was there where he placed his foot. He still couldn’t change the diapers of the baby but she could readily manage the company’s turnover with triumph. He still was a lame cook and she could bring business to the company with her charms and potential. She walked hand in hand with the man, wordily and literally. She no more needed him. The woman in her was subdued by the man in her. She was now addicted, to herself, to the power, the attention, the praise and the loneliness after abandonment. With loneliness came literal addictions, alcohol, drugs, smokes and also the worst physical addictions too. She needed someone to hold her yet no one to rule her. Bestowing trust on someone was completely out of question because this was taught to her by the experience of heartbreaks and betrayal. People used her sometimes and she was broken and disheartened but never did she once think of leaving her place of pride and self-contentment.
If she was showed some consequences and if ever anyone tried to discourage her all she had to present were her times of journey from the worst to the best and phrasing her favorite quote, ‘Frankly my dear, I don’t give a damn’ – Gone With the Wind. Nothing else mattered to her anymore.

Along with this resentful side, there was also a pleasant bit to her. She is lively, positive and headstrong! She always shows a Can-do attitude and looks for nothing but happiness around. Wherever she goes, she has heads turning towards her with her charm and confidence. This Woman in the City also has a home. Where people love her, care for her and trust her, where she has people, whom she loves and cares for more than her own life. Manning the house is sometimes enlisted in her responsibilities too. She falls but gets up. She soars high but stays stuck to the ground. She is full of life, love and affection. Lover to her husband, daughter to her parents, responsible daughter-in-law to her in-laws and friends to her kids and siblings, these are the roles she has to play in her daily life excluding her professional circle.

Irrespective of what work field she belongs to and what people she comes across, she never pays much attention to her bruises. At one instance she is an out-going well earning, modern chick, with abuses and fighting spirit and carefree attitude and on the other hand she is homely and considerate, with care and affection in her veins. Like when we see a person we are just able to see one part or side of him, unless the person turns and we are able to see the other. This woman has the strength to vanquish the evil and protect the virtuous.

Living in the city she is open to anything and everything. She is aware that she has scope, she is aware of her surroundings very well, in and out informed with the good and the bad of the city. Well versed with where to stand put and where to give up she goes out with and without her fears to vanquish them and be more independent that she already is. Helping people on her way and beaming with her confidence, the Woman in the City is the successor of tomorrow!

Cheers to you, cheers to lyf…

Oxygen…

There is this time when your mind gets cloudy, you don’t know how to shake it off but are desperate to burst out, even though it is blindly.

There is this time when you wish to be at the top or at least in the core so as no one could spot you n you can just stay calm n pure.

There is this time when you find yourself in a cocoon, wish to come out and explore and find yourself in boon.

There is this time when u feel suffocated with no voice from mouth your soul screaming out but there is no way you can blurt it out.

Feel scattered, feel dominated feel without a voice and just as if you were watching a complete someone else as a whole.

All this time u just find yourself in a tight grip in a place u cannot even turn or flip fidgeting like a fish without water and lungs without oxygen.

You do feel this sometimes. But the only thing that could help you out of this is blurting out what you feel and do exactly what you want. Things won’t change on their own. You need to give them at least a little push to move things ahead or make them change their direction. No situation is similar for any one not is the time. Everything keeps changing and that is exactly when you need to strike. Keeping the track of time and the situation simultaneously you can actually be smarter than life sometime too. It’s just the effort which would really matter. Give it a chance, let things go and also grasp them at the perfect moment. You can never be sad then.

Cheers to you, cheers to lyf…!

Waking your Human self…

A mixture of feelings erupts when you are surrounded by multiple things that you wish to do with all your heart. But you can’t get along with everything on your plate. Eating everything in spite of feeling full can make you feel uneasy. Hence it is better not to “overdo” things. Everything in a specific limit and without greed always digests well. It is a human tendency to try and grab everything that one can without considering the consequences.

What I believe is, if everything can be changed and nothing can stay permanent so can human nature. One can be sane enough to understand the difference between right and wrong. It depends on whether you let greed or selfishness overpower the good in you or you actually try to be a little more human and selfless and think about others too. Some might disagree here saying if others don’t care about us why should we? To tell you my darlings even you are “The Others” at some point of time in life. If you do something to be selfish and expect others to be considerate, then please rethink about your expectation’s list. You need to refine it. You do good, you can stand the worse.

Consider you are a boss of some firm with people working under you, and you behave in the worst possible way with your colleagues or subordinates, spoiling their character certificates, not allotting them leave for their genuine reasons, cutting their salaries making them slog more than they deserve, what do you think this will reap into? Give it a thought. The output will be sour but true. You will remain dissatisfied all your life, you will lose your respect and also gain nothing and more over it makes you an asshole! Cutting down parts from their salary to fill yours is never going to serve you well.

This is nothing different than what our politicians do. They filch hard earned money from our pockets and stuff their spilling filthy pouches with it. Moreover they don’t do it just once but it is a repetition process. They don’t even have any kind of guilt about it. They don’t care if with this behavior people live or die. You really don’t need to do anything huge. Small things in life touch you more than big things. Helping and oldie cross a road or carry some things along or even provide a seat to sit are part of humanity. You are not worth living if being selfish is only what you think of doing.

Humanity is something which every individual should possess to make this not so green earth worth living. In time of crisis, it is not our loved ones or neighbours or acquaintances that come to your aid. It is their humanity which gives them the rational thoughts of being helpful. They can back off any moment. But they choose to stick to your side. Not because they are our own blood and they care for you, that is one of the reason, but more than that because they themselves can think rationally and sensibly. If you have born into a human life, live up to it. There are lot many stray dogs wandering around the corner every now and then. Choice is yours.

Cheers to you, Cheers to lyf…!

Life Linez…

Everyone of us has a different definition about our lives. But the steps we take while living this life are always being trodden upon at least once by someone else. My definition for life could be judged by this blog. I never wrote anything about me or related to me here. But everything I write is a part of me, part of what I feel and think. These are few lines which all of us go through with the game of Life. Something with the essence of this blog I write. Something which in a way defines this blog and my life as well. Hope you guys like it as always. So here I go with the Life Linez…

P.S: Dont judge the second last line. Its just a rhyme and part of life not the specific thing you think it is. 😛

Climbing up or falling down

Wiping tears or sniffing sounds

Laughing hard or throw a frown

All this just in one countdown

Hoping high or holding low

Feeling high or feeling low

Stretch the neck or show a bow

But you always remain a fellow

People come and people go

Watching all your petty shows

Smart you think and smart you show

But then realize you were foolish though

Raise your tongue and raise your mouth

And here, get replied by a shout

Try a glimpse and just look out

Breaking news! “Silence is what it’s al about”

Moving in or moving on

Tying knots or breaking bonds

Just twilight or breaking dawn

Be it anyway, life just goes on…

Cheers to you, cheers to lyf…!

Making the right choice…

A new thing is beginning to worry me nowadays. Not that it’s a new thing but it definitely leads to huge problems within people. I’m talking about career selection to be precise.

People choose something, and keep on doing it even though they don’t ace it. Even though the option they choose doesn’t make them happy they don’t plan on to look for something else but keep rubbing their ass on the damn thing which will, in near future, pay them almost nothing.

We all come to face unwanted troubles on all walks of life. Every big decision is interlinked with big pressure. The final call depends upon the individual’s strength of will. If the person is ready to take the risk and force his way out to his needs and satisfaction he is definitely fit for the world. But what about those who think they can’t?

Why are we so paranoid about ourselves, our future? Life is a game. You have everything to lose, but you literally don’t lose anything! And damn that’s a fact! You really got to believe in yourself so as to prove yourself right and work things out for yourself. Popping problems behind your back doesn’t really solve them. They don’t vanish that way. To get rid of them you ought to turn back, face them and then, and only then will they stop following you.

In olden days there used to be very little options to think about and opt for. But here we are in the 21st century where we are open to everything. If one road is blocked there are different paths we can take to reach our destination. Or for that matter we can change our destination as well! It’s nothing like a big deal now! There is no age to learn anything new. Looking into career point of view there are ample of things and fields which does need man power. Everything you point out to has scope in it. But if you keep on going the way you are it can give worse impacts which you really can never even think of. You might tend to lose faith in yourself, your social life can be affected and your psychological state might dwindle. One wrong decision or one hesitation for that push and your house of cards can lose its balance. You need to make up your mind about the importance of your own life in your own eyes.

If there is one thing that you have chosen and it no longer interests you, at any point of life you can think of another option. You just need to have the zeal. It might happen that the next option you choose takes you to great heights and you may ace it.

No work is big or small. Anything and everything is possible. Trust yourself. It’s your life you are playing with so you better be careful or it may take you to rubbles. Others are not going to come for your aid if you slip n fall in pit. It’s only you! You fall, you get up and you start walking again. Come alone go alone. One decision and your life may change. It is you who has to decide whether to give up with pressures around or look for that far-fetched success which will give meaning to your life and you yourself!

Cheers to you, cheers to lyf…!

Help yourself..

Problems are one thing which anyone and everyone faces all their life long. Problems can be related to anything. Just anything! A 3 year old is hungry and his mom is not around to feed him that could be his problem. Every teenage girl has a heart-break problem, not literally though. A newly graduated fresher has a job problem; a working person can have an increment or a promotion problem. A 50 year old may have retirement problems. Name them and they are there.

You also need to understand that no problem is big or small. Every problem has its importance according to its situation, a person’s age or gender, etc. so you can’t just neglect any issue which anyone is facing.

Have you ever wondered why we seem to have problems?

When we sense things are falling apart, we try to gather as much, as quickly as possible. But we do that only when we sense they are falling apart. Why do you think we realise our errors or wrong doings at the end of everything? Can it really be justified coherently?

Frankly I would say, or rather I don’t even need to say this, we know there is no point sulking on things after they have passed and have, like, Gone With The Wind. We always say better late than never. But have we ever reconsidered if it really helps? We can work on things when we have them in our hand. But once they start slipping away, no one can do anything. A glass once broken can never be joined again because even though we stick the broken parts it always shows the faded broken lines. It can never be used as it was before.

We say past is past, but our past makes us think in our present and improve our future. But how much ever true this might be, there comes a point when we have to let things go and understand that we do have a life left after all. It’s upon us to decide which thing affects how much to us. We can’t just keep drowning in the memories and effect of the so called past.

If you need help sorting your problems with your past, you need to talk. Rather not just past, any problem that you face isn’t going to be solved unless you talk it out. And instead of talking here and there, just open up to the concerned person. If nothing you’ll be satisfied that you at least gave it a try. Even seeing a shrink is one of the options.

My first question to you is do you think seeing a shrink (a psychiatrist) means you are MAD? If yes, then you definitely need to enlighten yourself. A shrink isn’t someone who will take your clothes off and give you electric shocks nor will he/she take you to a corner and redden your bum by beating you up with a baseball bat or something like that. Or if you think your friends or family will start maintaining distance from you just because you are seeing a shrink then that is their problem and not yours.

A shrink can only help you help yourself by helping you find out what your problems are, so that you can take care of them and sort your so called messed up life!

Anyways, that’s not what we are looking at right now, so, talking about problems, you really need to take a chill pill, RELAX, take time off for your own self to ponder upon things a little, take help if necessary and take the needed decision ASAP. ASAP because life waits for none, so you do need to move on and look forward to much bigger troubles and be ready for them. Follow this and you’ll feel life was Never Better!

Cheers to you, cheers to lyf…!