Well, observation: we sometimes, kind of tend to crave for sadness. Have you ever thought that probably melancholy is what drives us, pulls us closer? We blame a lot of things on sadness. Or rather we blame our sadness on a lot of things. But we forget that ‘life’ never stops happening and we never stop entangling ourselves in the complicated web built right around our sadness. On the outside it could feel as if we are trying to push through and feel better but in reality we like the pain. Sensing a frown on your forehead? Well, that’s because you may have considered sadness to be an alien which affects your happiness.
Why I say that? Because sadness is real. It’s close to the heart and you can really feel it. Happiness is real too, but more artificial. It goes away, it subsides. Pain, however, stays. It leaves its essence or impression even when it’s gone. You remember every moment of your pain unlike your happy moments. You can pretend to be happy but you can’t pretend to be really sad. It shows if you do, really.
Oh! And please don’t confuse it with depression. That’s a different thing altogether. If you are sad, you are sad. Not depressed.
We say that happiness doesn’t last long. It feels instantaneous, because it is instantaneous. You feel there are fewer happy moments in your life because we don’t dwell in them. We tend to dwell in our sadness more than we dwell in our happiness. You can hide your sadness behind happiness, but seldom can you do vice versa. Happiness has to show to seem real. While sadness is more personal, more intimate, more close to our heart and close to what you are. Like it or not, accept it or not, but that’s the reality. Some truths are hard to digest even though we experience them strongly every day and every moment of our lives.
What do you do about it? Nothing. Just let yourself feel the real sadness, without trying to push it away and without trying to counter or cover it with your pretentious happiness. Do this so that you can cherish your happiness better.
Cheers to you, cheers to lyf…!
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